A friend in need is a friend indeed. The needs can take different shapes, be it a physical help or a lending ear or a shoulder to cry or a mail to pass info or a simple chat. All these convey just one thing, “I am always there for you”.
My definition of a friend is “God sent Angels to take care of one’s feelings and stand by in need”. Friendship bars age, gender, professional, cultural and financial barriers. All you need is someone who can accept and understand the person who you are! Did you know that you need not be vocal at all to be a good friend and yet be there for that person wishing all the wellness in life? This reminds me of a quote “True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable” by David Tyson. How true!
Recently, when I was going through a friendship breakup crisis, a friend of mine has introduced me about the philosophy of “allotment”. In your sphere, you allot a space to someone you really value and if that someone walks out of your life without a reason, what would happen to you?
- You will be heartbroken for a while
- You will start distrusting everyone
- You will be disinterested in every activity
You will wait for that person to come back for some time, but definitely not a life time. Let us understand that a life time is too much for a single friend. When there are so many wonderful human beings open for friendship, why hook to this old friend who doesn’t hold any value for you! It is not as easy as said. You definitely have to make attempts to rebuild the relationship, to clear the air between and try to patch up. In spite of your genuine, heartfelt efforts, if that someone persists, then something is wrong with that person and NOT YOU!!
So you will revoke the allotment in your heart and re-allot someone else much deserving. And am sure, this time your choice is wiser!
As the saying goes “don't put all of your eggs in one basket”, i..e. you never invest all your money in a single stock. On the same lines, you should never invest all your emotional and creative energy in one person or thing. Instead, diversify, meet new people and make new acquaintances.
Do remember that you haven’t erased that someone from your heart, he/she has only taken a back seat and am sure you will be waiting with your arms wide open when that person bounces back in your life! I conclude saying, friendship / Love, it is up to you to make or break it! It is in your hands how you want a relationship to be. No circumstances or poisoning minds can ever influence a true and matured bonding!
If there is a break up, there is a reason.. if there is a reconnect, there is a reason....If you are living there is a reason... :) Just that both the parties may not know the reasons.